Allen Haley - M.Div., Pastoral Counselor, & Marriage Counselor

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Meet Allen


Allen Haley is a counselor, coach, speaker and writer. He is an ordained minister who has been in ministry over 25 years. His ministry experience and counseling experience is extensive. He specializes in couples counseling, individual counseling and men's issues. He has been helping couples heal hurts, resolve conflicts and grow closer together for over 20 years.

For the past 25 years, I have been helping couples and individuals uncover and resolve the stuck places in their hearts and minds that have impacted their significant relationships. For most people the surface problem is not really the problem. The problem lies deep within the heart. When Adam and Eve first fell away from God, their hearts were forever changed. They were no longer naked and unashamed.

Guilt, fear and shame entered the world. They covered up their true authentic selves with fig leaves. They hid from God and each other. They doubted and mistrusted. They blamed God and each other for their pain and loneliness. We are no different. Our hearts have been wounded and scarred and we have tried a variety of ways to manage the pain on our own. Prov 20:5 states that "the purposes of a man's heart are deep waters but a man of understanding draws them out." With the right blend of listening and understanding combined with compassion, empathy and caring most people can get to the fears, hurts, shame and sadness that have kept them bound up for years. Once the deep issues of the heart have been brought to the surface, the power of love, grace and truth can bring healing, comfort and freedom. Jesus came to mend the broken hearted and to set the captives free. He is the real counselor.

Ministry Experience


Allen has served as a Home Missionary/Church Starter and planted the church California Community Church. He has served as a Senior Pastor, Associate Pastor, and Youth Pastor. He has led numerous small groups and taught many classes on the integration of emotional and spiritual healing.

Allen has also had various leadership positions within para-church ministries. He has served as a local leader for Young Life, Youth for Christ and Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Allen is an excellent communicator whose genuine warmth, humor and knowledge make him an engaging and powerful speaker.

Counseling Experience


Allen is a gifted counselor whose warmth, wisdom, and in-depth knowledge and love of the Bible and psychology has strengthened and brought healing to many marriages, pastors and families.

Allen works at Christian Counseling Associates treating clients in an outpatient setting. He treats Individuals, Couples, Teens, and Families. He specializes in treating men and marriages. He also has a special gift in helping pastors and those in ministry work through some of the unique issues they face. "The purposes of a man's heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out." (Proverbs 20:5) Applying Biblical truth and psychological truth to the hurts and brokenness of individuals and families is what Allen does best.

He has a warm, empathetic, caring style that helps individuals get the root of their anxiety, depression, codependency, fears and addictions.

Allen and his wife Terri, designed and co-teach Matters of the Heart Workshop for Couples and Matters of the Heart Workshop for Families.

Allen lives in Sebastopol, CA and in his free time he loves spending time with Terri, his adult children, and seeking adventures outdoors like hiking, fishing, backpacking, and kayaking.

 

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Education

  • UC Davis
  • Mid-America Theological Seminary
  • Pastoral Counselors National Association